Maybe Nothing Is Wrong With You

Sometimes we hear something once and it sticks so deeply that we start treating it like the truth even when it's just someone’s opinion and honestly when I look back, I realise how wild it is that I used to treat random comments like they came from some official authority that certified my entire personality.

Sometimes I carried people’s words like they were carved into stone and my brain happily stored them like free samples even though I never asked for them.

Some were harmless and some were meant kindly and some were thrown out so casually that the speaker probably forgot about it before I even reached home.
But my brain collected everything and I didn't even notice how much weight I was carrying until the weight started slowing down the way I saw myself.

It took me years to understand one simple thing which is that thoughts aren't facts and opinions aren't truth and not everything people say deserves the power I used to hand over like I was giving a VIP pass.

Before I knew this, I lived through a long season of believing every comment about me must mean something real like people had secret access to information about me that I didn't.

The Moment I Realized I Was Living in Someone Else’s Story

I remember scrolling Pinterest one night and instead of finding outfit inspo like a normal person, I somehow ended up reading this tiny line that said someone’s opinion of you isn't a fact and you should treat it like a thought because that is all it is and it felt like a stranger on the internet suddenly reminded me to stop stressing for free.

That single sentence felt like someone gently dropping a permission slip into my lap telling me that it's okay to put certain worries down because they were never mine to hold tightly.

It wasn't even deep advice and yet it shook me because sometimes the smallest things hit the hardest especially when you realise you have been surviving without them for way too long.

The blog explained how two people can look at the same you with the same body and the same personality and walk away with completely different opinions that have nothing to do with who you actually are.

One person might say you should gain weight to look healthier.

Another might say they wish they had your body because everything looks good on it.

Same body and same person but two different narratives that are fighting each other like siblings over the TV remote.

That's when it clicked for me that if two opposite opinions about me can exist at the same time then maybe neither of them gets to define me unless I let it.

When One Comment Shapes the Whole Mirror

If I'm being honest, I used to let people’s comments rewrite the entire way I looked at myself and sometimes one tiny remark had more power than my own thoughts.

Someone would say I look too thin and suddenly every time I looked into the mirror I started searching for flaws instead of seeing myself clearly.

Someone else would say they liked my body and I would instantly feel lighter like I was finally allowed to like myself for one day.

It's funny and sad at the same time how fragile it feels when your self worth depends on whichever voice you heard most recently.

I didn't understand that a thought is flexible while a fact is stable and I treated everything as if it came from a science textbook.

My brain collected opinions the way a fridge collects magnets and everything stuck there until I could barely see the real door underneath.

How I Started Unlearning the Weight of People’s Words

There was no dramatic transformation and no miracle moment and instead it was a bunch of small clicks that slowly helped me shift the way I interpreted things.

1. Ask: “Is this a fact or someone’s preference?”

For example, when someone says I should gain weight that's clearly a preference and not a universal truth.

When someone says I look tired, that's an observation and not a measurement of my worth.

When someone compliments my body type for outfits, that's admiration but still a personal perspective.

If something cannot be measured or proven, it's not a fact and my brain finally understood that it can chill a bit.

2. Remind myself that people speak from their world and not mine

Someone raised around curvier bodies might see me and think I'm thin (well actually, I really am based on my BMI test).

Someone who loves a slimmer silhouette might think I'm perfect.

It's the same me standing there but different worlds influencing different interpretations which means I cannot and should not try to fit every opinion because that is a losing game.

3. Notice which opinions I cling to and ask why

I used to wonder why negative comments stay longer than positive ones and eventually realised my brain treated negativity like danger signals because it was trained to look for problems.

So now I pause and ask myself which part of me believes this comment and why did I accept it so quickly because sometimes the comment is not even that deep and I was just interpreting it through old insecurities.

4. Hold opinions like leaves instead of stones

Some things aren't meant to be carried long term and now when someone says something about me, I imagine it like a leaf landing lightly in my hand which means I can look at it and then let it drift away.

Stones make you sink but leaves float and I realised I no longer want to sink just because someone felt like sharing an opinion.

5. Let contradictions set you free instead of confusing you

People cannot agree on anything, not even food, so of course they'll not agree on you.
Some will think I'm quiet and others will swear I talk too much and honestly both can be true depending on the day and whether I ate or not.

Some people think I'm soft and others think I am blunt and some think I'm pretty while others just don't see it and all of these can exist without meaning anything bad.

I cannot control how people see me but I can control which thoughts I choose to keep.

The Strange Comfort of Knowing Everyone Sees You Differently

For a long time, I thought inconsistency meant I was the problem and that I needed to find one perfect version of myself that everyone could agree on which is obviously impossible because even nasi lemak lovers cannot agree on whether the sambal should be sweet or spicy.

People aren't reacting to the real me but to their idea of me and that idea is shaped by their past, preferences and mood for the day which means it's not a mirror and not a fact and not something I need to chase.

Realising this made me softer and more confident and more willing to listen to my own voice instead of constantly adjusting myself like a human radio antenna searching for clear reception.

Maybe Nothing’s Wrong With You After All

Maybe the reason you feel not enough is not because you lack anything but because you are trying to merge everyone’s opinions into one impossible definition of yourself.

Maybe you've been carrying comments that were never meant to become truth and treating personal preferences like universal facts and letting the loudest voices win instead of the most honest one.

Maybe you're not broken and you're simply human and learning and slowly growing out of old stories that no longer fit the person you are becoming.

If this spoke to you, take a breath and let go of one old opinion today because even releasing one makes space for you to come home to yourself.